tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4242439673360261416.post7611183948788431306..comments2023-10-28T01:08:17.601-07:00Comments on David Talks/The Berner Monologues: THE BLAME GAMEDavid Bernerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05707698404226464547noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4242439673360261416.post-65568114444097871942011-02-25T10:00:10.755-08:002011-02-25T10:00:10.755-08:00What responsibility did this poor have in his own ...What responsibility did this poor have in his own life and death?<br /><br />Every single hard core addict I have met has very little to do with their life and death.<br /><br />We learn very early on (from birth - 10), the very basics that become the cornerstones of our lives.<br /><br />Our parents, those who will be our closest confidents, our greatest teachers the ones that teach us how to love others, to be kind and gentle, to learn that it is okay to not be perfect.<br /><br />From the time we are born until we take our first drink/hoot the dye has been cast.<br /><br />A normal kid who has had the right combination of learning and loving during the early years may have a drink and may drink more but they rarely, if evr, get addicted. Those prone to addiction have the first drug and they have an almost magical experience, they feel normal as they have just had an artificial boost to their self esteem, powerful beyond words and the greates lover and seducer they will ever find. The kid whose parents were their greatest teacher usually have good self esteem so the effect of the drink/drug is pleasureable but if consequences ever came from it, they would probably stop drinking or slow down...not so for the kid who gets everything from the drug that he was supposed to get as a result of solid parenting, feeling stronger, feeling like they can talk to the girsl/boys, feel like they they belong, that they are equal and yes, that they have arrived and will now also standup for themselves.<br />The words above are the result of spending my whole first half of my life in addiction and personally knowing thousands and the last third of my life living in recovering from addiction...I have yet to sit down with a parent who feels they had no part in the addiction of their son/daughter, some start out feeling that way but soon they can see their role...There is no blame, my mom and dad are dead but I love them, even after all that was done to me, heaven only knows how their parents treated them.........barry Jonesonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4242439673360261416.post-2907627002379834542011-02-24T11:08:43.680-08:002011-02-24T11:08:43.680-08:00Yes,please.Yes,please.David Bernerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05707698404226464547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4242439673360261416.post-77002575458671735252011-02-24T10:20:08.393-08:002011-02-24T10:20:08.393-08:00Hi,
This is a question for the webmaster/admin ...Hi,<br /> <br /> This is a question for the webmaster/admin here at thebernermonologues.blogspot.com.<br /><br />May I use part of the information from your post above if I provide a link back to this site?<br /><br />Thanks,<br />HarryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4242439673360261416.post-23568690276491782442011-02-23T18:14:38.439-08:002011-02-23T18:14:38.439-08:00Hey David we can never say enough when someone los...Hey David we can never say enough when someone loses there life to addiction sad sad Sean from Servant house keep up the good work P.S I saw your interview with the judge this guy was my kind of judgeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com